Why adults date other marrieds?
Talk about a loaded issue that no one wants to speak about, that’s it. Amusing thing, extramarital affairs have been going on from ancient times. Extramarital relationships can be burdened with troubles, cause misery, and other troubles. Plus you should wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and frankness issue, funds, age difference, religious upbringing, guilt, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this article I will classify an affair as a long term, maybe weeks long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other persons, dating married woman.
Why do people have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are women seeking affairs. I think generally though it is only the human state, the need for affection, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and respected. Here are a several explanations I have run across.
Naturally we as humans are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is enjoyable and exciting, and sex makes us escape the real world for a short period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Somebody are able to turn the wish on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another individual, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the total romance thing. These wishes and yearnings can be so strong they prevail over the taboos humanity has erected against affairs. For lots of people the yearnings will defeat their fears and make them risk the wrath of not only their family, but society too. So why, what is the method?
Sex Addicts, perhaps some of us are. Sex is very pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically motivated sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not wound your family or anyone else? You would need to lessen the hazard you are taking. If you have the attitude that a good affair is one that is beneficial to all, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the biggest cluster, very big truly. There are many couples whose marriage is over, but they are comfortable in the way they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Then there are the children to think about. Your assets are so tangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay jointly besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that stop them implementing the sex operation, at least not with their spouse. An extramarital affair occasionally solves the problem while keeping the marriage intact.
Ignoring, sorrowfully this is a common cause I fear. One or the other, generally the male is sexually neglecting his female for a tones of reasons. As a male I actually appreciate you guys neglecting your ladies and making them obtainable to us guys of romance, making them “lonely wives” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but evil.
Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, could be it is a shortage of love, could be compassion is not here, could be it is the closeness, maybe neglect. Maybe we have just developed apart, our relulas interests diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is contradictory of what you want. Could be I just don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that feeling that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The ultimate reason people give is, they seek the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run away, for economic gain, for revenge and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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